Tag: Positivity

Remember that the problem lies with others, not you

I worry too much about what others think. Always have done and likely always will. Regular blog readers will already know that much of my anxiety / lack of self-confidence is a result of not liking how I look and consequently wondering how people will be viewing me in certain situations. This may change when …

Blue Monday my backside – how about ‘True Monday’ instead?

Tomorrow, Monday 20th January, is Blue Monday. This post has been influenced by a brilliant book I read late last year: ‘Shine – Rediscovering your energy, happiness & purpose’; by Andy Cope and Gavin Oattes. It really is a great read and comes highly recommended. One page particularly resonated with me as it showed that …

Help yourself – remember that imperfection is far more common than perfection

I made a last-minute change to my planned post theme today. I’ve spent most of the weekend painting the office I use with my daughter (we playfully call it our office though that’s a little grandiose for what is essentially a spare bedroom which houses desks, bookshelves and our musical instruments). It’s needed decorating for …

Changing my thought process to beat the January blues and anxiety

As I sit here typing today, I’m in a bit of a melancholic mood. I finished work on Friday 20th December and have just enjoyed a wonderful 2-week break. Christmas and New Year were excellent – a relaxed period spending valuable time with family and friends. Now, as I often do on this day each …

Don’t put yourself under enormous pressure as we enter a new year

A brief post this week, to coincide not just with a new year but a new decade. We have suddenly arrived at that time of year when people start to consider what changes they’d like to make within their lives. I’m not a huge fan of the concept of New Year’s Resolutions, primarily as they …

A Christmas message – take care and look after yourself

Christmas means many things to many people. It’s absolutely my favourite time of the year. A time to relax, unwind and, most importantly, spend time with family and friends. I love the coming together, the joy on faces, the laughter and the memories which are created. However, this isn’t the case for everyone. It’s important …

The importance of living in the moment

Over recent months, I’ve found something that has a significant impact on my state of mind. It is really simple yet really quite profound and that thing is living in the moment. I don’t think many of us would deny that a significant percentage of people these days are wedded to their mobiles. As a …

Answering reader questions on anxiety

A good friend asked me some questions about anxiety a few months ago. Whilst I may have alluded to the answers in various posts, I recently realised that I haven’t answered them directly, hence that’s what this post will address. If anyone wants to ask me anything related to anxiety, low self-esteem, or a lack …

Everyday pressures (particularly as we approach Christmas)

Life has an uncanny knack of cranking up the pressure on us on a near-constant basis. We live in an age dominated by social media, where it is very easy for people to portray they’re living perfect lives whilst we all know the reality is highly likely to be considerably different. It is an age …

Coping mechanisms – anger management and how one simple word (‘why’) can help defuse most situations

Something I find almost as difficult to admit to as when I first spoke of anxiety, low self-esteem, and a lack of self-confidence is that I have a bit of a temper and get angry quite easily. By and large I manage to suppress this quite well but it does begin to emerge more within …